Christmas celebrations for children are too often marked by family divisions when relationships break down.
According to statistics from Gov.co.uk, in the financial year ending 2020 it’s estimated that there were 2.4 million separated families in Great Britain, affecting around 3.6 million children. We find that many of these families are breaking up after a long Christmas break together. Many family lawyers receive a surge of enquiries for divorces each New Year.
And while the break-up may offer hope of ending a difficult time, too often it marks the start of a new challenge, with couples engaged in a drawn-out and combative process, instead of collaborating to find common ground.
For many families, the final Christmas will be marked by arguments and behaviour that may come to be used as an example of unreasonable behaviour and form grounds for divorce. To secure a divorce, currently the marriage must be shown to have broken down irretrievably, with most being ‘fault-based’ – adultery, unreasonable behaviour, and the rarely-used fact of desertion. The only alternative is a period of separation of at least two years before issuing the divorce petition, but separate living arrangements can be difficult to achieve before assets have been divided through the process of divorce. And while the break-up for unmarried couples appears to offer a simpler exit strategy, it underlines the lack of legal protection for cohabiting partners.
However, after many years of campaigning to remove the need to blame one of the parties when seeking a divorce, the new law of ‘no fault divorce’ will come into force in April 2022. A no-fault divorce is a divorce procedure that does not apportion blame to either party. The new no fault system of divorce will allow either spouse to petition or both spouses to file a joint application. This new route to divorce is believed to reduce animosity and provide a better environment for children.
Whilst this is a step in the right direction, many are calling for further support and rights for cohabiting partners who have shown to be at greater risk after a break-up, with few routes for financial protection.
Explained family law expert, Amanda Maruca, of Spire Solicitors LLP:
“Many people who have been living together for any length of time, sharing a home and bringing up children, think they have some special rights through a ‘common law marriage.’ But there are no such protections unless something is legally owned between the two of you – for example if your name is on the title deeds for a property, as joint tenants, or tenants in common, or if you have a jointly named savings account.
“The lack of financial remedy for cohabiting couples is often the biggest issue. While a parent can be made to contribute to the maintenance of their children, there is no such protection for a former partner to claim maintenance if they cannot work while bringing up the children of the relationship. Similarly, they may find themselves with nowhere to live.”
She added:
“Whether starting out, or in a committed relationship, and whether married or cohabiting, it is sensible to think about protecting assets through a pre- or post-nuptial agreement, or a cohabitation agreement. For many couples, simply having the frank discussion that goes into making such an agreement can help to create a positive, open attitude in a relationship from the start. While pre-or post-nuptial agreements are not yet binding in the UK, they have increasing weight after being tested in the courts.”
And for those couples anticipating their last Christmas together, the advice is to seek collaborative approaches to arrangements for both children and financial matters. For divorcing couples, mediation will usually involve sorting out such arrangements separately from the actual divorce proceedings, with the resulting agreement likely to be presented to the Courts for a formal consent order to be made.
“Collaboration and mediation are the best way to face up to the pain of separation. Most couples find it is a way to get things sorted more quickly and easily, and helps to put children’s interests first,” said Amanda. “The actual process of divorce has become much simpler in recent years, and many couples are taking a DIY approach, but involving a specialist mediator, and having guidance over your rights, can make the difference between a good or bad break-up, particularly where children are involved, and that’s true for cohabiting couples too.”
If you are considering commencing divorce proceedings and need some advice, or would like to discuss anything in this article, such as drafting a cohabitation agreement, please contact our Family team on 01603 677077.
